about emotional attachement

so if this statement seems weird and hard to understand, don't try to understand it because it will probably just sound bad haha...

I've experienced feelings like before, but not just out of the blue. And I do think that it has a lot to do with my adhd. sometimes detachment is how i deal with things, heck i think a lot of people without adhd might deal with things like that. For me, detachment comes when someone has hurt me. When someone hurts me, emotionally, and badly enough, I (often without realizing it) tend to detach myself from them and really distance myself from them, it's like if it's going to be a problem, i just head out. I don't like to think i'm "running away from my problems" just subconsciously avoiding potential future problems. It has made marriage interesting. My husband accuses me at times of not caring or not holding his hand as often or cuddling or accepting his help... but these things really only start to become a problem when he has said or done something that has hurt my feelings, etc. So i guess i just tend to become detached to avoid unhappiness. And while I do completely understand that depression is a valid reason to worry about and be detached, thats not where my detachment issues come from. Also, I've read other people's forums and comments about how it's just plain hard to keep in touch or keep up with people when they aren't right there every day, and not because I don't care, but I become accidentally detached because there are so many crazy things going on "right in front of me" or in my head, that I don't realize I've become detached! I don't know if that makes any sense, but it does in my head :)